Had a fun day hanging with Press!!
Q: Nik, I need your advice and I need brutal honesty. I met this guy 10 months ago on POF. He is awesome, everything I could ever want in a guy, thing is. I live 10 states away which we both were ok with. I’m starting to develop feelings and get attached and its starting to really sadden me. I have to book the trip and pay all expenses to come see him, bc if I don’t we would never ever see each other. Long story short, knowing he goes out and has potential to meet someone it’s really making me upset. I almost feel like maybe I’m being crazy but I don’t know what to do! I feel like after this long he would want to see me already, it’s constant disappointment from him. Do you think if I end it I’m throwing away the best thing that could ever happen to me? I need help.
A: If I were you I would cut him off and see if he tries to see you. Guys are desperate and panic when they are in LOVE. On the other hand you could waste the money and just spy on him to see if he is even a real person and not a catfish. Either way people fall in love with the distance, not the person. Having a person in your life on your time is what’s making you happy.
Q: Nik, DA Strong for years. I’ve always thought you give good advice and you always seem to know why people act in a certain manner. I’ll keep it short. I’m in college and the girl I dated for two years broke up with me about three months ago yet she still wants to hang out with me because she misses her “best friend.” She claims that we are never getting back together and that she just enjoys my company as friends, yet we still have sex. I don’t understand why someone who didn’t want to be with me still wants to be friends with me. I’m convinced she is just trying to exert her power over me because she doesn’t really want to cope with the idea of me being completely out of her life. I was completely over this chick and she keeps weaseling her way back in. Can you tell me what is going on in her head and what I should do? Thanks.
A: Bro, she cannot bare the thought of you sleeping with another woman so she is playing mind games like a selfish c*nt. You need to cut her loose before you look back at your life and say “ugh I should have f*cked more b*tches in college” (we all say it).
Q: Nik, I need your advice and I know you’re the only person who will give me an honest answer. I apologize now if this is long and scatterbrained but I have a lot on my mind. My parents divorced when I was about 12, I’m 25 now with a 15 month old daughter and a fiancee. Ever since I was a kid (but more so after the divorce) my grandparents on my dad’s side have had almost nothing to do with me. One Christmas when I was young I got to watch my cousins open awesome gifts and all I got a travel toiletry kit. It sounds petty but I was a kid–so watching my cousins get lavish gifts while I got that made me feel like crap. But I was always polite and well behaved and I knew to be thankful for whatever gifts I received. To summarize last 10 years, I was never invited to Christmas or any other holidays. Even my dad would go and not invite me. I don’t care about the material things, I just wanted to see my dad’s side of the family. I never get phone calls to see how I’m doing, nothing. I’ve reached out and called them and they have never done the same. Our daughter was born in November 2011. The day she was born my entire family (mom’s side) came over to see her. They never called to say congrats, never stopped in to see her. I feel like new parents shouldn’t have to call to ask family to come see the baby, but maybe I’m wrong. Now they have moved 4 hours away so they will never see her. Now I’m engaged and stressed about the wedding. We both want a small and intimate ceremony. We only want my parents, grandparents (mom’s side–we’re very close), and my fiancee’s parents. But now I feel because I’m inviting my mom’s side, that I need to invite my dad’s side. Honestly I really couldn’t care less if they came (which they probably won’t). I don’t want to hurt my dad’s feelings by not inviting them, but I feel like they have rejected me and my family. Nik what should I do? I don’t understand what I’ve done to them to not even want to see their only great granddaughter. I’m ready to say f*ck it and cut them out of my life.
A: Don’t invite them. They don’t deserve it. It’s time to stop chasing their affection and start creating new affection for your child. Break that pattern right now or your kid will have copycat anxiety.
Q: Nik, I’ve seen other girls submit their stories here and you’ve always given tough but good advice. I’m 25 and have graduated from college. I wasn’t really doing anything with my life but drinking, sleeping around, and doing pepsi every night. I just found out that I’m pregnant with a guy I was seeing off and on for the past few months. I know that it’s his because he’s the only guy I’ve slept with in the past 3 months without a condom. I considered an abortion briefly but it’s not like I’m still in high school. I kind of feel that I’m meant to have this baby to get me out of the party lifestyle and this could very well safe my life. I’ve stopped drinking and doing drugs and I’ve started eating better and taking care of my body. My parents are pretty well off financially so that is not really a big issue. They have also said they will help me and support me in anyway possible. Doesn’t sound so bad, right? Well here’s the problem. The guy wants nothing to do with this and wants me to get an abortion. He is in the same party lifestyle so I think that this may help him grow up and get his sh*t together. He doesn’t need to marry me but I want him to be there for this baby so the baby can have two parents. How can I convince him that this is not the worst things in the world and can turn our lives around for the better?
A: He won’t understand until he holds his child. The more you push him now the more he will distance himself. Also, don’t bank on him. If you have a strong support system and the baby feels loved, he will be irrelevant.
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SCOTTSDALE, Ariz. - It’s a tradition for a lot of people, especially this time of the year — gathering up new or used toys for a good cause. But one local website is taking that idea and giving it an adult twist. Donate two toys and you could win yourself a free breast augmentation. It’s an interesting idea for a Christmas toy donation drive. It’s the perfect pairing of Scottsdale nightlife and charity. Maybe you’re looking at boosting your bust this holiday season but can’t afford it. Well the dirty.com’s Nik Richie is here to help. “Let’s give away some breast implants and call it ‘Toys for Ta-Tas.’ It’s just genius,” said Richie. That’s right. The toy drive he’s hosting is called “Toys for Ta-Tas.” And it’s being held at The Mint night club in Scottsdale this week. Donate a pair of toys and you’ll have a chance to win a pair of free breasts. Click here to read more on Fox News
I feel like Max Headroom in this interview.- nik
I wrote my wedding vows on a Hilton memo note. I keep the note in my wallet and when times get tough in my relationship I read them to calm my senses. The remainder is on the back which reads: “…Divine guidance. I will love you Shayne until my last breathe.”
Today is a day of thanks and reflection. If you can, reflect on yourself and ask questions. Over the year have you helped? Have you touched someone else’s life? This has been a very trying year for me. I have been tested in every way imaginable. My fight is daily both professionally and personally, but I’m thankful. I have made so many friends along the way and I have really learned about life through others. TheDirty has taught me more than any professor and I’m thankful for this website. If it wasn’t for this website I would have never went to Haiti to help children in need, if it wasn’t for this website I would have never felt how cancer took Sarah Elizabeth Kennedy’s life, if it wasn’t for this website I would have never become a man, if it wasn’t for this website I would have never found my wife and most importantly become a father.
I’m thankful for my reflection. Everyday I intertwine with millions of people’s lives hopefully to wake them up to a world of change and personal awareness. I truly believe selfishness is our worst enemy. I know I’m not the most liked person in the world, but if I can make someone else smile I feel like the domino will keep hitting.
Thank you to our troops who fight for our freedom. Without you America dies. Freedom of speech and expression is what drives our country. Lastly, I need to thank you. Being DIRTY ARMY is not easy, we are the cubical warriors and underground misfits who shake the world. As bad as it might look, we are here to HELP society by shifting the wrong. Our internet invention might be unorthodox, but we are a team that will never give up! Thank you.
Happy Thanksgiving.- saint nik
RIP David Whitney Stallard (CAN-DO.org)
RIP Sarah Elizabeth Kennedy (SaraCare.org)
We all want to be great, but is the act selfish? I struggle daily to figure out my cause. I look at life different than most. I blog, I love, I smile. I find meaning in the littlest things. A snails journey fascinates me. A child’s learning wonder makes me wonder. In all I am a man of triumph who would not trade his mark on the world for anything. I made her and she makes me.
I love you Press.- nik
**I would love to hear your thoughts on this**
THE DIRTY ARMY: Nik, this is not a submission of judgement, rather a request for potential partnership. I’m a male multi-millionaire who is looking for this girl. I don’t know who she is; this is why I’m reaching out to you and your army. My membership club buddies said only one man on earth “Nik Richie” probably knows who this female is and referred me to your website. Anyway, if you are reading this my red love; I want to make you an offer and I’m extremely serious about this. I want to pay you 250k a year salary to work for one of my companies. The job will be to mainly get to know me. I’m a fun loving guy who loves horses and traveling the world unknown. Also, if you have a man in your life boyfriend/husband, I’m willing to give him $650k to let you go. You must not settle for second rate my red love. Nik I have enclosed my email and contact information. I need you to make this happen for us, as you will be rewarded too. God speed.
This post was submitted to TheDirty, but I wanted to get LR thoughts. What has our world become when an Orange face can be so valuable?- nik
Maybe there is hope:
This photo is a picture of me. Please pass on this message to your potential partners: thanks so much- but I am a 4.0 student at a top 1% University working toward a career on my own. I am entirely uninterested in your money as I am confident I will achieve financial success on my own.
Nik, I can assure you that I throughly understand the economic principles as well as the fundamental traits of the human species that embed “business.” I appreciate the fact that we are instinctively selfish thus the fact that you are willing to jeopardize my future career for your personal success and financial gain is understandable- but I beg you to consider my circumstance.
Firstly, I take full responsibility for taking a photo in the mirror and posting it on my personal Facebook. That photo was taken before going on a date with the boyfriend I had from the time I was fifteen to twenty-one years old. After being raised in a very strict Mormon household and thereafter remaining in a relationship for so many years, I was entirely naive to the dangers of dressing provocatively and posting a photo. To this day I have never been to a nightclub, never hooked up with anyone, etc. in order to maintain a reputation that accurately reflects my character.
I am a woman who lives by extremely high morals. I have worked tirelessly for twenty-one years, and will continue to work to become to well-rounded woman that you would want your own daughter, as well as every other little girl can look up to. There is no shortage of blondes with big boobs who seek out the attention your website offers, and I can assure you I am not one of them. As you can see, I have learned the dangers of dressing in a provocative manner and have transformed my wardrobe as I have been able to afford new clothes.
Truthfully, I think your website exposes a valuable reality in that the internet makes the entire world so small and accessible. Depending on how you look at it, “The Dirty” can even be a good thing in that it encourages present persons as well as future generations to transform their cognitive paradigm in which they make their behavior decisions according to the latest technological advances.
I have defended you tirelessly, and will continue to do so as I am confident that you will remove that posting. I know you have a heart- I know you love your wife and daughter and are innocently trying to make a life of financial comfort for yourself and your loved ones, just like the rest of us. Please do not hurt a person who truly does not deserve it.
All of the best.